Stop Sweating Your Wedding – It’s Not a Sauna

I hate this sentiment: 

I really, really do.

Before I write a single word more, I want to start off first of all by stating: I Think it’s wonderful you want to get in shape! Do not in any way misconstrue my post as being anti-workout! Or that I am dissing on your effort! Or that I think weddings aren’t worth getting in shape for!

Trust me! I get it. You’re proud of the effort you’re putting in to looking good for That One Day! Your Day! Bride Day! Wedding Bells and Rings Day! Expensively Free Booze and Drunk Relatives Day! 

I was a bride very recently. I get it.

I hate this particular sentiment for two reasons: Reason one the Tyranny of the Wedding Industry; and reason two because I’m a runner and runners believe in consistency.

So, reason one: while you’re busy Zumba-ing, yoga-ing, Pi-Yo-ing, etc. your rear off at the gym, the wedding industry is busy raking in your (or your parent’s) hard earned cash, telling you that if you don’t have perfectly sculpted arms, shoulders and a bikini ready bum you are somehow unworthy of a white dress.

And that’s bull.

You are perfect the way you are – your future husband or wife picked you because you’re perfect right now and perfect for the rest of your lives.

The changes that the wedding industry thinks you should make for your day aren’t sustainable. As soon as the wedding is over and you don’t have another goal to work for and post wedding bliss sets in – trust me – you’re going to see changes in the opposite direction.

Which brings me to my second reason why I hate this poor shirt’s sentiment so much:

DON’T DO IT FOR YOUR WEDDING!!! Do it for you!! Your wedding does not equal The End! They do not roll credits after the champagne toasts! After your wedding you have a marriage.

And that’s pretty awesome. 

So – yeah – your wedding makes a great goal date for getting rid of those ten pounds you’ve been meaning to loose. But if that one night is all you want – then you’re wasting your time and money.

Keep it going! Keep getting in shape! Run a half marathon! Go make gains!

Always be moving forward! You’re getting better every day!

Workout because it makes you happy – and happy people don’t shoot their husband’s.200_s

Workout because you want to have a stronger, leaner healthier you, for the rest of your life.

Workout because you like to workout. Or workout because you really love cookies.

Workout because you’re stressed and this is good for you. Or workout because you’re not stressed and you want to keep it that way (and this is good for you).

Workout because you’ve got a life ahead of you!

You’ve got a marriage ahead of you!

Don’t just sweat for a dress. 


Pain and Suffering

Since last Thursday I have gotten in 13.1 miles. Which is, weirdly, the exact number of miles in a half-marathon.

To complement training, I’m reading Haruki Murakami’s What I Talk About When I Talk About Running. I highly recommend it.

In the forward of the book, Murakami talks about how every runner has to have a mantra of sorts that they repeat to themselves. It’s how you get through those hardest miles that never seem to end.

Murakami mentions some of the ones he’s heard, including, “pain is inevitable – suffering is optional”. It’s sort of a Spartan-ish sentiment but I think that its something that everyone who is training – running, swimming, cross-fit, weight-training, etc.- needs to keep in perspective.

If you push yourself through those hard workouts; if you work hard; if you want to see changes, you’re gonna hurt.

You’re welcome

You’re breaking down muscle to rebuild it, so its tougher and stronger. You will hurt – probably not as badly as Captain Rogers did  – but you will hurt (sorry, my inner nerd-ling escaped).

I am not saying that you need to break yourself every time you work out. Rest is part of the program. Your body needs it to recover and heal!

What I am saying is that – when you hurt; when you’re on X-mile of a Y-mile long run – and you hurt; Or when you wake up the next day and you hurt, Don’t feel sorry for yourself.

That soreness is your body getting better.

You get better every time you max-out. Every time you finish your training run. Every time you stretch into Bird of Paradise. Your body gets better!

So, are you going to push through it – or suffer through it?



I am registered for two half marathons this year. Yes, two.

No. I am not in crazy good shape.

Actually – I’m sort of a rhombus, just, well square. I have left over muscles from 10 years of farm work and cross-country running in high school – but they are indolent muscles.

They are Netflix and wine muscles.

They are muscles that quietly sing Bruce Springstein’s Glory Days as they cry in their beer!

BUT NO MORE!daily-motivation-25-photos-148

Today, I become a positive runner!

Today, I am on a mission!

I have twelve weeks to get into good enough shape to run the Bald Peak Half Marathon, in Hillsborough, Oregon!

It is going to involve a lot of hill repeats! And Tempo-work! But, here’s to twelve weeks:da-mo-225